It’s 2018, and obviously, there are still women who lie about their virginity in relations.
For a long time now, it has been a thing for women to be rated marry-able majorly by the presence of a hymen. In ancient Yoruba culture, virginity was so crucial that whole communities were said to have endured outside a new couple’s hut on their marriage night while they went in to consummate the marriage.
The spouse would triumphantly hold up a white sheet stained with the evidence of his bride’s ‘completeness’, and the entire community would erupt in gladness at sight. A deficiency of it meant the bride was ‘incomplete’ and it was both a humiliation on her and her family.
It didn’t especially matter if the woman was of good sense, an industrious nature or anything of the kind. If she wasn’t a virgin, the lady just was no good, clear and straightforward.
Related traditions were in other parts of Nigeria, Africa and even in Asia whereas recently as the year 2010, a report in China demonstrates how hymen reconstruction procedures were being performed on young women in their 20’s who needed to get married. The statement said they had to have it intact as it was one state that men were particular about.
Very positively, society and religion’s long-standing importance on the chastity and abstinence of women from sex before official marriage is one reason why virginity seems to remain such a big deal, even now.
Christianity preaches sexual innocence [Ex. 22:16-17, SOS 2:7] and also Prophet Mohammed [P.B.U.H] describes in a Hadith that there is a special prize for both the girl that marries with her virginity intact and her parents/guardian.
However, the most relatable reason why women would lie about virginity is the importance they think men attach to it.
Plain and simple.
Because there are still those guys who go around seeking virgins, babes have resorted to lying to support that idea of being ‘pure’ and ‘untouched’ since they also want to get married. Moreover, fast as no babe wants to be picked unmarried on the wrong side of 30, another ridiculously overrated excitement which society needs to help people outgrow.
According to Dayo, a youthful Lagos bachelor, women lie to be virgins because they want “to appear to the guys that they have been so innocent and that they are wife materials.”
Nurudeen, a different Lagos Bachelor, 29, adds that “some women do so to give the man the impression that they are decent.
“Some guys really give hints of their preference for a virgin, and a smart babe will just play along with that account if she likes the guy,” he says.
Some men also worry that non-virgins have body-counts that can’t be traced, unlike virgins, whose absence of body count is apparent and ascertainable.
This is a cycle of absurdity. First, because virginity can be lost in other ways apart from sex, e.g., strenuous sporting activities. So being a non-virgin is not mainly a confirmation that she’s loose, just as virginity is not a symbol of being chaste and modest.
Hello, have you heard of the anal s3x at all?
Moreover, the fact that a babe’s cherry got popped via sexual intercourse does not mean she has slept with everyone in the city. Most importantly, guys need to realise that there are other different things to seek in a relationship than the appearance of a hymen. Guys, would you preferably have a lady with a terrible personality and a hymen or someone great and amazing without one? The way to discover a good woman for you certainly has to be better than this, no?
Women also need to understand that lying to a guy about anything is a wrong, particularly if it’s something necessary to the existence of that association in the first instance.
If you lie regarding your virginity to keep him interested in you, you’d have begun the relationship on a 9wrong note, and while a surgical restoration may fix you a new hymen, it won’t do a thing for the guilt you’ll feel for being dishonest.
Neither will it fix the frustration and other reactions he’ll have if he ever finds out that you tied him down with false virginity.
We’ll be the first to confess here that it’s a bit ridiculous that some men won’t partner anyone but virgins. At the same time, their crazy need will not make your cheating right. So if he craves for a virgin and you are not, walk away rather than lying to him about it.
There are men whose honour for women is not limited to the presence or absence of a thin piece of skin watching the vajayjay.
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